12/16/08

How Do I Share Christ Without Harrassing Someone About Religion?

Author: Roger Barrier

Dear Roger,

How can I impact someone else’s life without harassing them with religion?

Dear R,

Four things come immediately to mind: Receptivity; Relationship; Lifestyle and Closing The Deal.

First, let’s talk about Receptivity. In today’s culture of tolerance and few absolutes Christianity is just one of many options. The plethora of religious and spiritual ideas makes it possible for everyone to make up their own religion—or not. Anyone who speaks with conviction is often seen as harassing—especially if they press their beliefs as the only true and authentic approach—which is exactly what Jesus claimed about both Himself and His teachings. In addition the perception in our culture is that everyone who speaks has a hidden agenda and a biased motive.

Second, let’s talk about Relationships. In order to avoid hassling we must build trust. We do this by developing relationships so that people know, trust and accept us. When we are part of their circle of friends they are much more likely to listen and receive our ideas. Developing relationships is best done with the people we have regular contact with. Relationships begun with the intention of evangelizing are probably too artificial and foundationally flawed to succeed except in a few extreme circumstances.

Third, let’s talk about Lifestyle. In advising Christian wives on the most effective way to bring their Non-Christian friends to Christ Paul told wives to keep their mouths shut and let their lovely Christian lifestyles speak for themselves (1 Peter 3:1-2). Values, behaviors and integrity speak loudly—are quite attractive—and stand in stark contrast to the insincerity of present-day society.

Finally, let’s talk about Closing The Deal. While it is never good to push unwanted ideas and lifestyles (i.e. Christianity) on others, there may well come the right time to share the gospel. Sales people call this "closing the deal." Deals never get done without this step. Jesus taught that no one can enter the Kingdom without a personal surrender to Him as Lord based on His death, burial and resurrection which paid the price for our sin. The best way to communicate the Gospel is by simply sharing your personal story. What was your life like before you found Christ? How did you find Christ? What is your life like now that you are living in the Kingdom? Would you like to receive Christ? Those four questions—or variations of them—provide an easy guide line for closing the deal.

Well, R, I hope my answer gives you at least one perspective on how you can impact another’s life without harassing them. Good question. Please ask me another one!

Love, Roger

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