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08/01/10

Can My Mom Hear Me In Heaven?

Dear Roger,

My mom passed away a few months ago. Can she hear me in heaven when I talk to her?

Sincerely, Brian

Dear Brian,

No one can answer your question with any degree of certainty. As far as I know, the Bible never gives a definitive answer.

Nevertheless, the Bible does give some insight into the matter. In Revelation 6:9-11, a group of Christian martyrs are pictured under the altar in Heaven watching death blows rain down upon Christians who are alive on earth during the Great Tribulation. These men and women are obviously aware of the events on earth and are pleading for God to get even with the persecution perpetrators.

Acts 7 records the stoning of Stephen for the “crime” of preaching the Gospel. He was the first Christian martyr. Just before dying he saw Jesus leaning over the ramparts of Heaven looking on him with compassion and concern: “When they heard this, they were furious and gnashed their teeth at him. But Stephen, full of the Holy Spirit, looked up to heaven and saw the glory of God, and Jesus standing at the right hand of God. ‘Look,’ he said, ‘I see heaven open and the Son of Man standing at the right hand of God.’ At this they covered their ears and, yelling at the top of their voices, they all rushed at him, dragged him out of the city and began to stone him” (Acts 7:54-58).

Some view Hebrews 12:1-2 as evidence that Christians in Heaven can observe activities occurring on earth. The Heroes of Faith are pictured in Hebrews 11 as standing in a great stadium as they cheer for Christians who are running the “race that is set before them.” I don’t particularly agree with this interpretation. I think that the writer to the Hebrews was simply using them as encouraging examples to us that our faith can result in victorious living, too!

On the other hand, Julie and I listened with rapt attention as one of our missionary friends from the Middle East described the raid on her family by the secret police of a nation that often persecuted Christians. Her skull was split open by an axe. Her husband was beaten mercilessly. God miraculously protected their children. She was air evacuated to Vienna and miraculously survived with all her mental and motor skills intact! Her husband fully recovered. She wept as she described the horror of the attack; however, moments later her lips curled up in a soft smile as she told of the vision she had during the attack of the saints of Hebrew 11 cheering her on in her pain.

While these examples might hint at your mother being to hear (and see) you on earth, they are certainly not definitive. My opinion is that—I just don’t know the answer. But, maybe the following story can put things in perspective.

When our baby daughter, Jessie, died in our arms, Julie and I said, “Good bye,” and then knelt to pray. I remember asking God to tell Jessie that we were her mommy and daddy and that we loved her more than words could tell. I asked God to relate to her how glad we were that she finally had a working body with which to enjoy the delights of Heaven. I prayed for God to tell her that we were looking forward to seeing her again soon!

At her funeral I prayed for Jesus to tell Jessie that we really wished she were still here on earth us, but that we did not begrudge her one bit the great time she was having in Heaven.

Brian, I find myself still quietly praying those prayers still today—thirty-eight-years later. I don’t know if Jessie can observe or hear from me directly; on the other hand, I know that God can, and that makes me confident that Jessie knows as well. Ask God in prayer to tell your mom whatever you want to tell her. It just may be that God passes the message along.

Thanks for the question. I hope my thoughts are helpful.

Love, Roger

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Comments

I read your answer with tears, my Mom died years ago, very suddenly. She didn't see me get married or know her Grandson. I noticed a star that appeared much brighter than the rest in the months following her death. I saw it during the times I was traveling from California to Arizona settling her estate(She died suddenly and young). I felt she was watching and that gave me strength. I still miss her, but I know she's with our Father and whole again and that I'll see her again gives me much comfort, and yes, I've asked God to pass along messages from time to time.

Robyn Edwards , 02/17/10 03:39 PM

Wow Roger, that was an amazing answer! Brian, keep praying to God and pass along messages to your Mom, I am sure he will pass them on!

, 02/18/10 12:21 PM

Thank you Brian for the touching question. And thank you Roger for your meaningful answer.

It is important for me to reflect on this. As memories linger and pass, I've begun to ask God to let my father know that I'm now beginning to see deep things that I didn't while he was here.

I also find myself talking to Dad in my tears, and if he can't hear me personally, I trust that God is passing it along out of His love and compassion for both of us. "I just didn't know."

My mother is still on earth, but has Alzheimer's. In the same way, while I am alone, I talk to her in my tears. I hope God is passing it along to her now. If not, then when she is in heaven.

No matter the difference in the circumstances, this life is short. When we are together in Heaven, there will be plenty of time to express loving thoughts we haven't even perceived yet.

Great things He has done. Great things He will do.

Jack Victor Muecke , 02/18/10 02:23 PM

Thank you Roger and Julie for sharing. I to wonder if Mom can hear me but even more so I wonder can she see me or our family even a glimpse. She has been passed barely over two years now 1/24/08. Yes I will ask God to tell her how much I miss her and love her til we meet again.

Mary Litteral , 02/21/10 08:41 PM

Thank you Roger for your wonderful, caring and thoughtful message. After thinking back to times when she were still here, I know she hears me. There many ,many timesehen she were here that I could sense that she wanted to speak to me and vice vera sand that we would call each other at just about the same time.Now, I sense that she can hear me and is waiting on me to "call
home " and just chat. Brian Carswell

Brian Carswell , 03/24/10 01:04 PM

Roger, this helped me very much. I recently lost my son and have struggled and struggled with this very question, especially to my son and daughter who are still living. Working through the grieving process is very difficult. I struggle with him seeing how heartbroken we all are without him. Thanks again Roger

Tonya Haley , 03/28/10 06:59 PM

My husband died suddenly while working out of town on 3/23/10 and I too wondered if he could see and hear me from heaven. Your answer gave me such peace. Honestly, we don't know for sure, but we know what our hearts tell us and feel. Thank you for such a heartfelt answer to such an important question.

Theresa Sullivan , 04/28/10 12:08 PM

I lost my son 10 months ago and I know he visits me often. I feel his presence and I talk to him. I believe that there is a place in Heaven where our loved ones can go to see us, but I know they don't understand earthly things anymore. I often pray and ask God to just let my son know that I love him and miss him and I know, without doubt, God does this for me.

Melissa Doo , 05/14/10 03:35 PM

i love my mommy so much
i dont want to watch her cry

sam islam , 09/02/10 11:32 PM

the night my mum died in hospital i had a dream and my mum was telling me that i dont need to worry that she was ok now when i woke up a bit confused then my brother was caling me to tell me my mun had died still miss her mums never stop caring worrying and looking after even though they are not here love to u all

patrick kirwan , 09/13/10 04:36 PM

Thank you for your encouragement...and yes, i DO believe God passes along my messages and thoughts of love and missing her to my Mom...she died 2 years ago this month...I miss her so much...but i KNOW i WILL see her again!!!

pam crosby , 10/09/10 01:28 PM

There where times my mom and i talked and i said to her we should have a signal that we both know so when you are gone i still know you are around. We never picked out what it would be but there is a song she loved and always wanted to listen to so on her last day here i asked her if she wanted to here it and she said yes. i also played it at her funeral. the first time i heard it after her funeral was almost a year later the night i brought flowers to the cemetery for her birthday i got in the car and it was playing i just got married this last july and i told my girlfriend if i here the song the next day i will know my mom is there. it was not even five minutes later and a friend called me who i have not heard from in a year said she heard a song on the radio and it made her think of me so she called it was my mom's favorite song. i hung up the phone and within two minutes my son text me and said mom wave on wave is playing. my girlfriend and i went into tears and said my mom is here. i believe my mom is still with me all the time.that song has played on to many impotant times and i believe that is our sign. i will always love and cherish her may she be happy in heaven. Gail

gail corrick , 10/24/10 08:53 PM

My lovely mum passed away on 23 nov 2010. I am devasted about the sudden departure and I cried a lot. While waiting to identify the body, I feel someone standing beside me. I know is Jesus even though I cannot see him. He was here with me and my mum. ( my mum do not know Christ, but God forgive all sins and I believe she is taken with him to heaven). But my faith was low, I begin to question God, will my mum be in heaven? If yes, pls rain for me as a sign. Suddenly it rain. Then I am weak again and ask God to wash away my mum sin, by rain. Then it rained the second time in one day. God answer me and I believe if you want to talk to anyone, just ask and he will not failed you. Ask will be given. Amen

Sam Wong , 11/26/10 08:22 AM

Mom died suddenly in 89. We were best friends. The day before we had a little spat and through her pain she said "You do not love me". I said. "I do love you Mother", those were our last words. My brother died at an even younger age in 96, his last words to me were "don't judge me"... I know they are both with Jesus, I wish they knew that I never for one moment had anything but love in my heart for them. I know that they cannot feel pain so they cannot see me. It is awesome that they are with Jesus. Please all, be careful what you say words stay here when we are gone and others could be deeply hurt by them.

Jacki Harris , 12/02/10 08:14 PM

My mom died jan 2010. Suddenly we had been arguing on and off for ages. She also used o ask me did I love her of course I did we were just both stubborn. I am having problems comig to terms with it and spent the whole year drinking to block out the pain I feel so guilty about some of the things I said an idoubed her love for me all the time. I can't shake this feeling of sadness it is with me all the time. I miss her so much she has been giving me so many signs still I thank her for them.  thanks for reading m post

Natalie Harrison , 01/28/11 08:11 PM

my dearest mom died in 93 it is as though it was yesterday.i think of her always and i know she is with me especially when i need her ..funny how one thinks of all of the family gone now ..memories come and they are alive again and just in the other room or on the other side of the phone. how i love her and miss her

yvonne glover , 03/04/11 10:23 AM

I'm crying as I'm reading the stories of all the Mum's that have passed away. I came to your site by searching for "talking to Mum in Heaven." I talk to my Mum all the time and I do feel she hears me, but when I'm feeling down I want to talk to her and hear her answer me.

Frances Salemi , 04/20/11 04:04 PM

I also had the same question. I just lost my mom to 45 day fight with Pancreatic cancer. She was my best friend. I am 51yrs old. At 76yrs on June 3rd. She was still my mom, and best friend. When things got tough in my life, she would say to me. Mike everything is going to be ok. Even when she was dying. She said. Mike everything is go to be ok. I miss you mom. I wish I could hear you say those comforting words again. Love your son Mike.

mike mcnally , 07/05/11 06:01 PM

August 1st will be 1 year since I lost my mother to Pancreatic Cancer. Learning to live with it, knowing I'll never get over it...So I have to believe that she hears me, even when I'm not speaking....

michelle khalaia , 07/17/11 02:01 PM

I lost my wonderful and perfect mom exactly two months ago to lung cancer. She was healthy as can be, diagnosed and gone in three months. I feel the holy spirit with me often when my heart aches. I get amazing strength, I can feel the greatness. I know we can't possibly grasp the power of god and what he is capable of however, I'm very confident that my mother is incredibly well taken care of and I like the possibility that by praying to Jesus he is relaying in some way the message that we are thinking of her. My mom's last written words to me on my birthday card one week after she was diagnosed were, "wow, what a bombshell! Well, one day at a time, things could be worse! Please don't worry, we just need to get things organized." When I read this over and over I think she knew she was not going to be around long. But, she never said anything to crush my hope that she would live much longer. Jesus had already spoke to her I think and she went peacefully in Hospice. Oh, Mom, I know its possible Jesus is relaying you news on joni, Dad and I. I love you and know that we will see you again!

jay soneff , 11/01/11 12:00 AM

My mom passed just two month ago on September 14, 2011. I truly believe she is in Heaven at peace and suffing no more. I recently learned through my sister to ask God to relay messages to my mom. As a believer in Christ Jesus as my Lord and Savior, I know He answers prayer. I pray each day that He would wrap His arms around my mother and give her a big hug for me and to let her know that I love and miss her. I believe He does just that and my request if fulfilled daily. Mr. Roger Barrier, your response and perspective to the question asked by so many is actually confirmation for me. Both my two sisters had dreams of talking with my mom on the phone (after she passed) and she told them both that she was fine, and her voice was so crisp, clear and vibrant. I have yet to experience that dream, being her only other daughter, but I'm sure if I continue to pray and ask God to hear her voice and to let me know she's fine, I'm sure it will eventually come to pass. Just gotta have faith!

Chantay Johnson , 11/23/11 09:21 AM

My Grandma passed about two months ago. My mom and I have had a really tough time dealing with her loss, and we've asked each other this question several times. Her birthday was last Monday, and my mom was having a hard time getting through the day (she teaches 3rd grade at Casas). The night before, she asked me with tears in her eyes, "Jess, what should I do? Do I get her a card? Do I write her a letter? Does she hear me? What's she doing up there?"

The next day, afraid that she might break into tears, she told the kids, "Sorry guys, I'm having a sad day. It's my Momma's birthday." The kids all said "Awwwwwwww," in unison, with genuine sympathy on their faces. One little girl said, "Let's sing her happy birthday!" My mom fought back tears and said, "I don't know you guys. Do you think she will hear us?" The little girl said, "Well I don't know, but Jesus will definitely hear us, so He'll probably want to tell her!"

They all sang happy birthday to my Grandma, and my mom found some comfort in it. Whether or not my Grandma heard, I think it does us good to have that child-like faith that she did. We won't know for sure until we meet Jesus, so why not hope for the best, and send them our love anyway? Worst case scenario, Jesus hears it, and it touches His heart.

The Bible says we get the mind of Christ when we die, and though we won't know everything Christ knows, I think there's a good chance that He shares things of eternal value with us while we are in Heaven. Love is eternal, so maybe He shares our love with them. Never hurts to have child-like faith!

Jess Woody , 12/10/11 09:45 PM

My mother passed away on Thanksgiving night this year. I still don't know exactly what caused her death, but I know that whatever it was there was nothing that I could have done to save her. When God decides it's time to go, we must go. If my mom had a choice, she would have never left. As she was always apologizing to me, I know that if she could say something to me now, it would be that she's sorry for leaving. As other people mentioned above, my mother and I also had a rocky relationship. Luckily for me when she passed we had just left on a very happy note. We had even prayed together. In all honesty I think it's one of the only times I've ever seen my mother pray. As far as my mother hearing me when I pray to Jesus or talk to her, I know that she can. I pray every night to dream about my mom and every night since she's passed.

Tiffany

Tiffany Guerrero , 12/21/11 08:55 PM

My mom died suddenly at the age of 79 of a cardiac arrest. I was staying in a hotel in New Hampshire at the time after a recent trip out west. At about 4:00 AM, I was awake and getting ready to go to the bathroom. All of a sudden, a bright light came into the room and was flitting around over my side of the bed. At first I was scared and pulled the covers over my eyes, than again, I looked up in the air. The room was pitch black other than this light that was about 10 inches long, flitting around, even more quickly than before. I put my left hand out and it touched me. I didn't feel anything physically, but I felt a wonderful feeling of happiness, love, and simply a happiness I'd never felt. The light than hovered over my husband for a few seconds and continued to the left out of the room. On the way home later that day, I received a call about my mom passing away the night before at about 3:00 AM. I went from a total feeling of elation to tears and mourning. I still remember that peace and happiness. It helps with the grief, and it also helps my father who keeps wondering where she is.

Cindy Johnson , 01/24/12 11:29 AM

My mom died June 27 last summer (2011) I still cry myself to sleep sometimes.I needed an answer to that, and you answered it.I almost cried reading it. You really touched my heart. P.S.I am 10 years old.

Love,
Karyn Dion

Karyn Dion , 01/25/12 08:45 PM

I'm in tears reading these stories. My Mum died five months ago; she was my closest friend. I miss her incredibly.

I don't go to church really but I was praying every day for a miracle and for faith. I just want her to be in a much better place now if she can't be here on Earth.

(I know you can hear me Mum.) Love you xxx

K , 02/23/12 10:22 PM

My mum passed away on July 10 2012 and after 2 days I gave birth to my baby girl.She was my friend with whom i could share mu ups and downs.Hope she can hear me.I almost cried reading all the above stories.

sayari uprety , 05/15/12 01:08 AM

I'm like everyone else, crying reading all of your stories about your mothers. My mother is 88 and she is my best friend. She has always helped me and listened to me and advised me all of my life. I am losing her slowly to dementia and physical decline but I'm still glad I have her. All my life I feared my parents' death, and now that my Dad is 92 and Mom 88, it will happen someday relatively soon. I'm really really going to miss them.

m k r , 05/17/12 09:57 PM