One of the biggest frustrations among singles is NOT being able to get a date, here are EIGHT tips on my checklist for you to consider.
#1 – Is it God's time? Proverbs 24:27 says that we should make sure our lives are in order before we build a house!!!
#2 – Do you want to get married more than you want to walk with Jesus! If this is true then a relationship/dating is an idol in your life, and for the Lord to give it to you would do nothing more than set you up for disappointment in the person you want to be with because they could never fulfill you!!! (See I John 5:21)
#3 – Do you struggle with bitterness? Either at your mother, father or an ex spouse!!! And…one of the WORST things a person can do is carry bitterness from a past relationship (any relationship) into a current relationship (see Ephesians 4:31!)
#4 – Are you walking in purity? I Thessalonians 4:3 says that IT IS GOD’S WILL that we avoid sexual immorality! If you are wrestling with porn…or every relationship you are in moves quickly towards “going too far” then you REALLY need to get those issues worked out…because if that is the case you would not be someone who could strengthen someone else and their walk with Jesus, you would actually weaken them!
#5 – Are you trying too hard? If you are a guy then PLEASE get this…if you are always asking girls out then I promise you that you have a reputation among them (and not a good one!!!) Yes, I believe the guy should be the one to pursue (Proverbs 18:22) BUT…there is a difference between pursuing and stalking…and no one has EVER fallen in love with a stalker!!!
#6 – Are you finding your identity in who you date (or if you can get a date) more than you are in a relationship with Jesus?
#7 – Are you willing to compromise your values in order to go out with someone! If you are a follower of Jesus Christ then compromise can never be a consideration!!!
#8 – Are your finances God-honoring? (Especially if you are a guy)…If you want to find a wife one of the BEST things you can do TODAY is NOT go on eharmony.com first, but rather do whatever it takes to GET OUT OF DEBT!!! (Proverbs 22:7)